She's expressed to you that she feels that you put your career first over her and the kids. How long did she feel that way? Does she still feel that way? Did she hold all of her feelings in untill the bomb?
I don't think you need to tell her to get a job or get out or anything like that. You should move in the direction that you want to go in and if she gets it fine if not fine to.
Bring home a business card for a realtor and leave it by your stuff. Have bank information there from a totally different bank. Be transparent, she can't stop you. Let her see you let go.
The one question you need to ask yourself is have you given her what she has asked for the last 8 months. If you have and she doesn't recognize it she has already made her decision.
Allow yourself to grieve over this. It's out of your control. Let her face this choice and act as if she is right.
What SHE needs to do is no longer your problem. What does the barber say "Next".
I didn't want to see my dad die when I was 15. But I didn't have a choice. What choice do you have?
JJ
H:37 W:34 D11,S8,S6 Together 19 years M:10 Bomb:4/09
