Your wife should apologize to his wife...and he should apologize to you? That day may come, but that day should be determined by them and no one else.
Hope,
Your wife gets to live with judgement from friends and family for the rest of her life for her affair. She has enough on her plate, including rebuilding with you. Let OM worry about his wife, just as your W is worrying about you.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK