ahhh what a horrible wk/wkend... Friday night S6 comes home to tell me he fell off a piece of equipment at school and hit his head in three places. The teacher apparently wouldn't let him go to the nurse after he told her his head hurt I was livid. He got off the bus and he looked horrible.
Long story short, I ended up taking him to the ER and was there for 4.5 hours... of course H didn't cancel his fishing trip.. whatever. He had a cat scan and all was well but he the dr. said no gym for a week. He also said he had some wheezing going on in his chest... well Friday night when we got home his fever was up to 102. Was sick all day on Sat. Took him back to the dr. Sunday morning only to find out he had pneumonia... ahhhh.. got a precription for him... then Sunday afternoon he was sitting on my computer chair and flipped it over and landed on the arm of the chair in his stomach, he was screaming in pain.. I couldn't believe it.. I had to call 911 and he went back to the er... I had knowone to take S3 so I had to take him with me again...
He's ok, went back to school on Wed. Now I have brochitis... and are totally exhausted.
Ya know, I might as well be a single parent because H is just not there for me at all. I had to deal with all of this mess by myself while he was away fishing. Yes, he didn't know that he was going to get pneumonia.. but he was still here when I had to take him to the ER the first time.
He is the most self centered, selfish person I have ever known. He has the nerve to tell me because he goes to work and makes money that means he loves me.... WTH??????? are you kidding me..
He started feeling a little sick on tuesday, so I made him some tea/honey... do you think he did ANY of that for me??? NOPE... I was totally worn out from taking care of S3 the wk before when he had croup, then S6, now myself and you think he was give two SH!!! about it , nope... just worried about his physical needs and that's it.
I think mentally and emotionally I am checking out. I won't leave because i just can't mess up my kids lives, and it would be bad finacially if we did leave...I am going to concentrate on my kids and im not going to let him get to me anymore.
He surrounds himself with these losers friends... mind you they are not his friends, they are people always trying to take advantage... he only has one good friend and that's it, hes a good guy and is the only decent one in the bunch.
He is at a show today down south of here. S6 has a big halloween party tonight which I invited my mom to. He never slept in the bed last night and never said goodbye this morning... So He did tell me yesterday he was going to come, but I bet you a million dollars he doesn't show up... and actually guys, I hope he doesn't, I would like a uneventful drama free night with my kids enjoying the party. Im going to leave promptly at 515 if he here so be it, if not Im not going to wait around like I usually do, im done with that.
Sorry for such a long rant... Im tired of the only one being the adult in the relationship, I might as well have another child... NOT!
me: 37 H: 44 Married for 18 years this june S7 S3 porn issues, and much more... since 7/06
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
Halloween went good for the boys.... But had a horrible night with H.
He just doesn't know how to act in front of people... mainly my friends, every comment was a sexual innuendo. I got so mad by the end of the night.
I told him the things he was saying were so inappropriate.. then proceeded to tell me how sexually deprived he is...OMG>>>>>>> I can't take it. We just had sex last night and he's already complaining.. then treats me like a POS because he wasn't getting his way.
Yesterday was bad, I have been working on a audit for four days and tells me I'm on my own because he's mad at me???? That he wasn't going to help me... not that he was going to anyway.Are you kidding me.. IM the one who should be mad to be made the butt of his jokes all night.
He has no respect for me at all.
On top of which my own family (sister and brother) have been treating my kids like crap again, I just can't take much more.
Im surrounded by spoiled, self centered rotten people.
My only saving grace is that H is leaving on business next wk for at least 3 days... I will get a break.
I usually enjoy this time of year, but being and living with H and his moods and just plain emotional abuse is killing me.
But I have to be strong for the boys, If Im not there is knowone else they will have. I cannot and will not do that to them.
me: 37 H: 44 Married for 18 years this june S7 S3 porn issues, and much more... since 7/06
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
On top of which my own family (sister and brother) have been treating my kids like crap again, I just can't take much more.
Im surrounded by spoiled, self centered rotten people.
My only saving grace is that H is leaving on business next wk for at least 3 days... I will get a break.
I usually enjoy this time of year, but being and living with H and his moods and just plain emotional abuse is killing me.
But I have to be strong for the boys, If Im not there is knowone else they will have. I cannot and will not do that to them.
Then it sounds like to time decide what you really want. Does this guy really sound like a person who you want to be the father for your kids?
You are correct; you need to make sure that one of you is 100% there for your kids, and you can't count on it being him.
Their well-being is the only reason you should have contact with your H at this point.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
Im surrounded by spoiled, self centered rotten people.
Sadly, that describes so many if not all of us, to one degree or another, some more than others. It's in our very nature, mine included. We're supposed to aspire to overcoming those baser tendencies, and yet today's world actually embraces such selfishness. With no apparent consequences left is it any wonder that so many folks abandon themselves to such self-centered foolishness?
I am very sorry for the pain you're going through, Irish. I wish I had words to ease your anguish. I continue to pray for you and your H, for your boys, for your family.
I was livid. He got off the bus and he looked horrible.
I couldn't believe it.. I had to call 911 and he went back to the er... I had knowone to take S3 so I had to take him with me again...
So He did tell me yesterday he was going to come, but I bet you a million dollars he doesn't show up... and actually guys, I hope he doesn't, I would like a uneventful drama free night with my kids enjoying the party. Im going to leave promptly at 515 if he here so be it, if not Im not going to wait around like I usually do, im done with that.