Can I save my marriage?

[TrentC]

I would also put in another plug for reading the book, and looking at some of the other threads on here about boundary-setting and detachment.

I think you're capable of doing what needs to be done to have the best shot at saving your marriage. But patience is going to be essential for that to happen.

Think of it this way: do you want to push your husband away quickly, or do you want to let him float around by himself until he starts paddling back on his own?