First, he's going to have to decide to call his friend on his own, in the past I'd tell H that he should probably call friend, but H needs to do this on his own. I guess I felt like our friend's wife was putting it on me to tell H "you should really call your friend" but I'm not going there.
As far as the beers thing we were on the phone so I couldn't get a feel. I said is it okay if I stay overnight? He said yeah but I was going to go out for some beers. I just said that's fine, I can find something to do. I asked him if he was meeting someone and he said no. In the past if I didn't want to go he would just go on his own, mainly becuase I never wanted to go out for beers with him or do anything with H that involved staying up too late or having fun!
Quote: Did you want me to go with you for a few drinks? Because that would be great, but if not I can make plans to go out with...."
I'll see him today so will put this out there for him and see what happens.
Quote: How do you think he'd take it if you just plain old asked him?
In the past this is what I would do, just invite myself along and he never seemed to have a problem with it.
So you're right Shiny it could go either way. In thinking back this was never a huge issue, now it's like oh my god, I'm so nervous, it's kind of like a first date!
