Can I save my marriage?

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Well, the thought has definitely crossed my mind. I just wonder why he would be offering me back rubs and wanting to sleep in my bed if there was another woman? I dunno. The thought originally crossed my mind the week it happened. The whole week we had a wonderful time. We were getting along great. One day we put the boys in our daycare and had the day to ourselves without kids which was perfect! And he dropped the bomb 3 days later, completely out of nowwhere! That's the only reason why I though "maybe" somebody has triggered his interest...how do you tell? And even worse how do you find out? I could never ask him, he would be outraged at me! He informed me today that he is taking the kids back to his sisters tonight and staying there the rest of the time he has with them. So I accepted it instead of resisted. The boys didn't just have tummy ache's. My youngest had a viral pnemonia and they are testing for H1N1, so they want him to be quarantined for 7 days, which isn't until Sunday. That's why I was so concerned they stay home. Especially because his sister has two children under 2 yrs old. That's the last thing I need is for them to get sick too. I understand the control issues that Rob is talking about. I see that I probably went about that all wrong. I just really wanted a repeat of the night before! I wanted to have some good conversation. And make him feel relaxed in the house WITH me. But it didn't work. He's not mad anymore. I actually cancelled my lunch plans today so he could go play noon hour hockey because I feel so bad for what I did last night. Its not working. Nothing is working. I hate him being here because it feels so good to have him in our home with our boys, just to know as soon as he gets back this afternoon and packs up the bags and takes the kids I'm going to be devastated. I really suck at this whole situation. I truly believe he isn't coming home and I don't know how to get to the acceptance part of my grief. I desperately want to get there. But it feels impossible right now. My husband is a very stubborn person. And even if he was having a small feeling of wanting to come home, he would never admit it. He has too much pride. And would never admit he made a mistake. So acceptance. That's where I'm at I think. I know its only been 3 weeks, but how do you know when to accept and move on. I feel like I should be there right now. ??