P, I'm getting concerned that you seem to want to drop your ball and run home at the least sign of resistance or bad news coming from your wife's camp. DBing is not complicated, but it IS hard work, and it requires a LOT of patience, and a LOT of self-discipline.
Frankly, I'm seeing neither from you, and I'm going to go out on a limb here and wonder if maybe these are some traits that your wife has had complaints about in your marriage, as well?
Puppy
Pup- THANK YOU. I was getting ready to pick up the 2x4.
Me: 50; Wife: 48 Gay; civil union in NJ no kids M: 15 years, together 17 Bomb (OW) 2/09 (EA 3mos/PA 3mos) ILYBINILWY W out of house, w/OW, in separation talks, nothing filed