Is this the end of my marriage?

[Arwen_in_NJ]

Is this it then .. the end?

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You STILL don't get it. Only YOU can know when it is the end for YOU. YOU get to decide when you are done standing for your marriage, when it is time for you to give it up and move on.

My W and I have been separated basically since July, but she moved into her own apt. last weekend with her OW. A lot of people would say it is time to move on.

But I am NOT ready to say there is no hope left. We had a 16 year R that I think was wonderful and special. I have no control over what my W is doing. I believe my W is in the middle of a MLC crisis that will pass, and her current R will not last. In the meantime I will live my own life and make myself into the best person I can be. Some day I may decide I have had enough, but that day is not this day.

Someone on this board once wrote : "are you willing to give up 2 or 3 years of your life to reach that 50th wedding anniversary?" For me, the answer is yes. Only you can answer for you.