The paying thing, he used to ALWAYS pay for stuff for me and hasn't since he left, except for dinners with son and him. He also gave me some extra cash, too! I did tell him last week that I could use a little help with finances. Boy am I learning the no pressure thing and to expect him to run away and not come over tonight, which is fine. I I forgot to add that right after I said what I said to him, he said "oh your friends probably don't think that" I said "I don't talk to them about this"
We did have a very good night, I said what I wanted to say and now he knows and I won't bring it up again. I really didn't want to say it at all, but because I stood up to him about the name calling, that did give the courage to say what I needed to say last night. So that was a plus for me and if anything gave me a boost of confidence. I also opened up to him. In the past it's always been hard for me to open up to him, I mean really hard, I always knew in my mind exaclty what I want to say, but I could never get the words to come out or I'd talk myself out of saying how I felt to H because HE DOESN'T CARE ANYWAYS--mindreading. In looking back he did need to know and it was important, so this was a babystep for ME.
He did call me this morning and I DID ask if he was coming over. He said "I don't know I have to think about it" and I said okay, so I'm letting it drop and will not PURSUE the issue. I'm sure his head is spinning today.
