Don't know if it is a gender thing or not, but I too would take some pleasure in seeing ow's world come crashing down. "What goes around, comes around" we say in the states....
What movie? I want to go see "Couple's Retreat". It is billed as a comedy despite the name
Hey K! WOW, he did it.. you said he was still being lazy and making no effort to see you and an hour or too late.. kaboom..he invites you on a date! on a Friday (becuase the babysitter is there Fridays, right).. at last !! Remember all those times we said here, but he could arrange something Friday night with you...
Hey you, now I'm gonna 2x4 you a little tiny bit (kind of a tickle, rather than a bashing).. whats that phrase, whatever we think, we are, or power of the mind, or power of positive thinking versus negative, etc etc.. Well whats with this "stbxH" stuff???
You said over page you weren't being negative like the old you, but realistic, but optimistic..ok, you dont want to go public and you're not living together again (yet!) but how abuot you stop referring and viewing him as "soon to be EX HUSBAND" and call him.. stbh... or stbRH?.. (soon to be reconciled H !). Go on...
Have a great night out, we want to hear all about it!! (I hope you have the ASOS on under your clothes)
Love Al xxxxx
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
Ok, what am I missing...ASOS? What's that? Curious minds want to know.
Have a wonderful time K! It's at least a step.
John, as far as a gender thing....possibly. I'll say it since none of the other women was willing to admit it.....women are vengeful. Payback, whether we initiate it or not, is almost always viewed with relish. Personally, I loved it when I heard about my xh ow being written up at work for getting 'entangled' with a married officer on her dispatch and for 'excessive texting' while at work. I also enjoyed that my xh was stripped of a lot of his pridefulness for the same reasons by his department. Of course he later lost his career because of further actions he took while completely distracted by his R with ow so that ended up hurting me further in the end. Karma, karma, karma.........
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
K, I am glad you ignore me and live your feelings. I hope you had a good time at the movies and maybe after (nudge nudge wink wink).
Speaking of vengeful (what a seguer) I also went to see a movie last night with NGF. Honest Citizen or something like that...now that is some serious revenge!
Sooo, the weekend here is coming to an end soon which means stbX left for his work after staying here the two days.Overall a calm time. No sex or anything, he told me last night his doc said no sex till Tuesday when he will have the ultra sound again to check if the stone is gone. The reason he told me that is because i kissed him around 4-5 in the morning and frankly I wanted to "try" and see how that would work. Making love has become a big issue for me. Feeling wanted and desired physically is something I crave for. All my insecurities are resurfucing and that shows DBing may not have changed me that much in the end.
We didnt have any heartfelt discussions or anything. I told him once that if he loves me, it is now THE time to show me. He asked "why, dont you feel it?" and my answer "no, not really" didnt make him happy.
My self confidence is being tested. And I think I am not passing the test. I feel I seem needy and weak. But I cant find the balance between being "open" to him and careful at the same time. I guess I am a "all or nothing" person. Cant explain it well. But I have so much work to do on me. Sigh... K
I understand your concerns, but it sure sounds to me that you are feeling the same things any of us would, in your situation. I think the fact that you were wanting to "try" says something, too. Not long ago, I don't think you would have even considered that an option.
It seems to me that he is starting to make an effort, though he really doesn't know how. Hopefully he can learn. Time will tell.
