If it were just his finances, believe me, I would do nothing. This matter affects me too and it is in my best financial interest that I deal with it.
Ask yourself this question: "If I was not around, is there any way he could take care of this from Europe? e.g. A phonecall, fax, email etc.. If the answer is "Yes" then I still say keep your hands off.
If it's possible to take care of it without his "calling the shots" then by all means do it. Take care of the issue and don't let him know. Let him wonder. He has not proven himself worthy of a response.
As a last resort and if you've run out of options, take care of it and send him a one word answer: "Done." Don't mention the candle. We both know that if bothers to reply it will be with a snotty one word "thanks".
Keep yourself strong Dudess.
M:11 | T:12 | Status: Married 4C's of WAS communication: Cool, Calm, Collected and CONFIDENT
