Yesterday, I read the DR chapter on dealing with a depressed person.
This stands out to me after reading your convo GIMA. She is emotionally numb, she responded "anything and everthing" (pessimistic thinking) and no energy to tackle problems. Ask her to have a physical and see a IC. You learned things having the conversation. One is that it isn't all you with problems. Aren't you glad you didn't wait another 6 months to find out she hasn't budged?
You did something compassionate for your wife too. She was holding back from telling you something she knew was going to hurt you. You led the convo that needed to happen and relieved some pressure off her.
What did it take for you to wake up? LFH is right here:
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I think for the first time we now understand what our wives were going through eight months ago. You and I are very close ourselves in becoming the WAS.
The difference is that a WAS isn't focused on a solution but just how to get to a place of less pain. A DBer has tools and is looking for solutions regardless of the outcome. Sitting in limboland is OK for your Wife because the pain is bearable. But you are aware and wise enough to know that it is not where a strong, confident man is going to keep his marriage or family. The other side of limboland is a great place to live.
I would read "Oh, the Places You will Go" by Dr Suess to your kids this weekend. Think, pray, stay busy and mangage your energy. You can handle it.
Cheers
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
