match.com=go for it. You probably feel guilty because I figured, in my case, when I detached and subsequently fell for a wonderful man, in my head, I knew that since I was the one keeping the M together (in my head), since I had given up, I was destroying the last chances we had.
K,
Wow - you hit it right on the head, 100% correct. This is exactly what is bugging me. I do feel like I'm the only one who hasn't given up on the marriage and if I throw in the towel everything is truly over. However I'm starting to realize that clinging to something that only one person (me) wants, is actually hanging on to something that really isn't there. Thanks for the insight.
