"Of course, he should have been honest with himself and me years ago if that is the case and saved us all this drama and pain."
Maybe you should have been honest with yourself as well? But..... that was then and this is NOW. I am glad that the clinical side is taking over ... I am sorry BBJ .... really I am. Don't worry about the list BBJ....my mind was made up a long time ago...with that closet post.....after that, all the other "evidence" is just pilling on.
Hope you have a nice weekend BBJ and take some time for yourself....go out with that guy.....run with him or have a coffee or whatever....it will do you some good.