Still in the tunnel with hubby

[kjensen]

H is home and first few hours were rocky. H went to work and came home in better spirits-said he had a hard time with transitions. Moods are up and down pretty quickly.

Things were pretty darn good Wednesday and so-so yesterday. Last night H said he doesn't want to see our therapist(today) and doesn't think he's helping us. He doesn't want to go on dates with me(but is getting together with his cousin tonight to drink beer). I just try(but don't always succeed) to listen. My opinion is that the therapy would would much better if H would just follow some of the advice/homework..

Funny thing is the DB lessons still apply so very much through all of this. When H was gone, I tackled some of the things he'd complained about(shoes in the garage, bathroom soaps running on empty)-stupid stuff...but H dings me for the improvements I did-hates the shoe organizer I bought and the fact that I spent money on soap! No winning here..No pleasing.

The more dinging, the more I find it easier to detach. I find myself enjoying time when H is away. Its hard to live with him at this stage. I'm tired of being criticized!