Is this the end of my marriage?

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Update. I will keep this one short.

I posted yesterday / day before my D's mum asked my W to come over and discuss contact with my D. Well yesterday, as we both agreed, she went back on it as my W had already setup contact with me.

To cut a long story short, and I put what was said here not because i believe it all (although some of it is relevant) but just to give you the full picture.

My W wanted contact with my D and seemed to latch onto the fact she could get it through my D's mother and not me. She wanted to keep me out of the picture and not be 'controlling her' anymore.

The last few texts between them asked if my W and OM could come around and talk to my D's mother about my D (WTF?). After being told no and there is no way he'd meet her, my W said my D would have to meet him someday and started to be quite insistent and coming across as she knew better than us.

The long and short of it is, that I need to stop ALL contact between my W and my D as I am now very worried about what she's going to do and what on earth she is thinking. Introducing my D to her OM is just inappropriate. My daughter has enough issues with this without being introduced to a THIRD parent. We also don't know him and what we do know concerns us.

Bear in mind my D is NOT my W's daughter - it's her step-daughter.

Tonight she is supposed to be here for time with us but I'm going to leave my D at her mothers and sit down and talk to my W and tell her the situation - while the OM is in her life, I'm concerned and she will have no contact with my D or me.

I can only see this as the best way forward. Cut all contact until the OM is out of the picture. It's maybe a bad gamble to play but I really, truly can't see another way forward. I think my W will accept it and move on although she is desperate for contact with my D so it may play on her mind and allow her to wake up. That's not my primary concern, that's just a possible outcome.

What it will do though is allow me to forget about her and focus on me as there will be no more contact.

This does blow my plans out of the water for an amicable separation agreement but that was unlikely to work anyway.

Comments?