Is this the end of my marriage?

[P17]

Alright P, face the wall and on your knees, this 2x4 might just break over that thick head.

I appreciate it. That was also mean sincerely.

You DON'T get the concept you've reposted what 10 times in 2 days? "believe NOTHING they say and half of what they do" whether it be directly to you or through someone.

As soon as I hear the stuff I certainly don't get it at all. It's only some time afterwards that I start to dismiss it.

And, TRUST NO-ONE closely related to the situation, especi

Oh, and speaking of filing, good luck with "adultry" as grounds. YOU HAVE TO PROVE IT, which will just drag things along if and when it ever comes down to you filing, or your as your response to HER filing.

As the OM is living with her and she has told her work and half of the town it's her boyfriend (and I also have it on texts) then I don't think I have much issue filing for D under adultery.

Now, as to what your W is saying: As others attest, this is all script, plain and simple and you are NOT the first H to be the biggest bag of cow manour that "deserved" to be cheated on. Get the F over it. Ask ANY LBH here and abroad, we're all "worthless and got what we deserved" in the begining stages. It's call VALIDATION to your W. She NEEDS this B/S to feel good about what she's doing. And guess what, the more you throw a pitty party in response to it, the MORE she will rub your nose in it and find you even more a pathetic loss and waste of the years "she lost in you".

To be honest the only place I have been throwing a pity party is here. In front of my W I haven't mentioned a thing about the OM, M or anything else.

I've heard this sh!t first hand, as well as many others who didn't heed the advise of NOT LISTENING to it.

My advise to you right now, call up some buddies and get the F out, TONIGHT! Get away from this.

I did get out. However as I have my D all week it's difficult to get out with buddies but I did go and see some friends and get away myself for a few hours.

You are headed down a path of self destruction and most importantly, destroying ANY chance of R your M. BTW- I CAN say that with confidence becasue I WAS YOU. Do you want to be divorced? Do you want to find yourself stuck in life a year and a half later? I don't think so. And if you think the pain is bad now, keep this sh!t up, it gets worse, trust me.

So the plan is still the same - get out, ignore her and get on with life?

You have GREAT in puppy, listen to it, HE GOT HIS W BACK! You also have mine, I DIDN'T. I'm certain I shall live out the rest of my days, along with my XW that we made a huge mistake. I am D'd and free to move on, but right now I can't because everytime I'm just about to, I'm looking over my shoulder for my XW to come back. DO YOU want that?

No I don't.

In summary, everything you hear right now is horessh!t to make your W look and feel okay for being with the troll that is OM. If you can't stand the fact she's with him now and can't let that go, get ready friend, a year and half later, it don't get no better (especially when the are to marry! oh yeah, I got that line of crap too that she "never would marry again").

See the post further on. I have finally made a decision.

Like I said, get out, tonight with company that WILL not converse this. I want to see a post by later on this afternoon as to what it is you'll be doing.

As I said I did get out but just to friends (it was female friends unfortunately) - I left at 2pm here and didn't get back until 3am. My D stayed with her mum last night as I was going to be late. I did have a good night and it was refreshing to get out.