Quote: How about he really IS confused as heck...wondering HOW in the WORLD could you ever really take him back after this??? I think KAW said something similar a few weeks back..that he's looking back across the burned bridges and wondering if he can make his way back
Thus scared as hell to let the OW go...in case you just laugh in his face and say..."how does it feel, loser" !!! there are days when this is exactly what I want to tell him, in fact in my drive home I did call him a loser
Is that crazy? Yes. Is it weak? YES. I don't know, but I sense your H really testing your waters so to speak...I think he's torn up inside at the thought of you moving on to a new life, new love without him. is it because my actions speak louder than words, I'm trying to be happy and like KAW I believe also said, maybe he can't see that I'm just happy, that there has to be a reason for my happiness--another man
I think He's PROJECTING a lot of his own ambivalence on to YOU...Fair?...NO!!! no it's not fair, I don't think it's fair at all. In all the time we were together I never treated him as crappy as he's treating me now!!
I mean the comments about you not wanting to do things with him any more...talk about a pity party!! As insane as it is...it looks like he's looking for reassurances from YOU! BUT, I do ask him to do things with me, he automatically says now, so maybe I'll take Deb's advice and ask in a different way, rather than just asking say it in a way that gives him time to think about the question, rather than saying "do you want to" "would you consider"
I also posted to Deb, that I think when he finds out I have plans for a weekend, he then tries to make plans to do something, and then tells me he has plans--subtely meaning see I have things to do, too!! And then regrets it, has to call me a thousand times on Monday because he feels so guilty, to see if things are still status quo in his mind anyway.
Quote: Now there are choices you can make here...keep offering him reassurances, keep reaching out, keep the bridge lowered.
The bridge is on the ground, I can't give up this easily can I? I won't give up this easily
Okay since I'm so early I'm off to walk on my treadmill and watch Monday's episode of Las Vegas. Love that show!!
