I don't know Cas - he's forcing your arm a bit with asking you to put together the proposal. Do you think that you could call his bluff and say "H, I just want to remind you that I won't stand in your way but I won't help you to do this, either. It's not what I want, though I shall respect however you want to move it forward"
How would that sit with you Cas? Do you think that he would then go to the solicitor and do it himself, or not? If he does, does he bear the total cost or would it have to be split? If you are anything like most people, it galls to pay solicitors fees unless ABSOLUTELY necessary - or you stand to gain from it.
So sorry that H has declined the invite. I don't think that you are back at square one at all even though it must feel like it - you must just hang in there and let things simmer down before trying again. If he doesn't want a fuss then fine, send him a card and leave it at that. [Sorry to say this but can we read that as "there are 'other' plans"]? That's the bit that will hurt more so than any of the rest of it, I bet.
To finish on a good note, at least you got to have tea and toast with H
WAH 43; W 47 M 16; T 17 Cats 15 & 6 Bomb 27/05/09 ow 28/06/09
"It is only on the darkest night that we see the stars"
