My story begins with a twist...

[TrentC]

It's been a few days now. There appears to be some softening of feelings -- I can sit down next to her on the couch and she'll take my hand.

We were giggling a little bit earlier tonight about how her mother is starting to get on her nerves, and I teased her about the fact that it's taken her a week to figure out that I started wearing aftershave. "There's a bright blue bottle sitting on the sink!"

But, she confided in me tonight that she's still uncomfortable sleeping in the same bed with me. I told her that I understood, and that I was willing to switch beds with her before her mother came to visit, but she doesn't want her mom to see how bad things are, I guess?

She said she wanted it to be the way it was, when she could snuggle with me in bed and it felt good. I asked her what she wanted me to do, and she said I could try to snuggle with her tonight. That lasted about half an hour, at which point she asked me to stop (and I did) and she got up to do something to distract herself. So I'm back here journaling.

I'm considering springing for a phone coaching session. I think I've got a handle on the basics of DBing but I could use some more specific, targeted help for my situation.