Is your stomach flipping from this stretch of the roller coaster Cath??? Yikes!
Now, your take on H's questions to you MAY be accurate, but there ARE other possibilities!
How about he really IS confused as heck...wondering HOW in the WORLD could you ever really take him back after this???
Thus scared as hell to let the OW go...in case you just laugh in his face and say..."how does it feel, loser" !!!
Is that crazy? Yes. Is it weak? YES.
I don't know, but I sense your H really testing your waters so to speak...I think he's torn up inside at the thought of you moving on to a new life, new love without him.
I think He's PROJECTING a lot of his own ambivalence on to YOU...Fair?...NO!!!
I mean the comments about you not wanting to do things with him any more...talk about a pity party!! As insane as it is...it looks like he's looking for reassurances from YOU!
Now there are choices you can make here...keep offering him reassurances, keep reaching out, keep the bridge lowered.
You HAVE been doing this all along, though haven't you? How has it worked?
Now recently you stood up for yourself in big ways...THAT seems to have gotten his attention...wondering if there are other 180's in here somewhere??
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