Since she can't give you specifics it sounds like she may just be unhappy and is blaming you for her unhappiness. About 6 weeks ago I read a book called "I Do Again" by Jeff and Cheryl Scruggs. It is about a golden couple who had the perfect life and were married for 10 years or so. The W decides that her H is the reason for her unhappiness and files for D. A couple months after the D she realizes that she really still loves her H (even though she has been having an affair) and sets about to win him back. 7 years later they re-marry. The book has a very strong faith-based message so if you decide to get it you have been pre-warned.
What I REALLY liked about the book is the way it is written. Each chapter has sections written by the H and by the W, so you get their perspectives on what they each were thinking at each point in time. I haven't seen another book quite like this. If you are like me at all and feel a need to understand WHY this is happening, books like this can sometimes give you insight.
