A Little Epiphany - (and a newbie delurking)

[Dia]

ok, I think I've untangled this for the moment - again.

There are three people in this sitch, hence three decisions.

I have stated to H and FIL that I am willing to repair the relationship. That's a decision I get to make.

MIL is entitled to invite or not invite who she pleases to her home for the holidays. That's a decision she gets to make.

And then H gets to decide how he will deal with the whole mess. That's his decision.

If H want sto discuss this with me, I will discuss it, but I need to be careful to to be or seem controlling along the lines of 'making him not let her exclude me.'

They're his giblets so he needs to wear them.