So sorry your W presented her position as unchanged since 6 months ago. That must feel really unfair to you after all of the hard work you have been doing DB'ing.
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Yes. It does in a way. Not in others. I did it for ME, not her. But, I did have some increased hope based on what I thought was her warming up to me.
I suppose the warming was nothing more than making teh best of it until the economy improved so she could leave. Not trying to be cynical, but that's what I interpret.
I am so sorry GIMA. It sounded like things were moving forward. The friendship building has been awesome.
Continue doing what you have been doing, but maybe separate yourself a little more from her. She needs to feel the brunt of what not having a H feels like. Trust me....it's not a good feeling at all. It's rough to be in the world all alone and raising children.
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
Oh, geez, GIMA. And things had been looking good, too. I'm so sorry.
Sleep on this and we can all strategize tomorrow if that's what you want.
Don't know that I will get to sleep soon - actually, I'm pretty tired. I am open to strategy, but strategy for what? My final recovery?
I do have some sadness, but it is mostly for the kids. I am doing better than I would have expected.
She said she did have deep, caring, committed love for me early but that over the years, the things I did (again, she cannot specify) made her feel like I was not putting the kids and her needs ahead of mine. And that just made her love for me go away.
I am so sorry GIMA. It sounded like things were moving forward. The friendship building has been awesome.
Continue doing what you have been doing, but maybe separate yourself a little more from her. She needs to feel the brunt of what not having a H feels like. Trust me....it's not a good feeling at all. It's rough to be in the world all alone and raising children.
She doesn't seem to think so. Strange to hear she does not want to be "in A marriage." Not, she doesn't want to be "in OUR marriage."
Chill out for 48 hrs. before doing/changing anything. My knee-jerk feeling is "Market or no market, I am done giving it my all. I am done. I will not live like this with no real explanation even given as to why. It's time to proceed with ending this."
Of course, my knee jerk reactions are usually poor which is why I invoke the 48 hr rule.
Sorry, Buddy.
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
Chill out for 48 hrs. before doing/changing anything. My knee-jerk feeling is "Market or no market, I am done giving it my all. I am done. I will not live like this with no real explanation even given as to why. It's time to proceed with ending this."
Of course, my knee jerk reactions are usually poor which is why I invoke the 48 hr rule.
Sorry, Buddy.
Thanks man. I am not making any decisions for a couple of days. But, I am feeling done. Not what I want, but I feel like I've been trying to push a string. It just isn't happening.
