Can I save my marriage?

[TrentC]

Well, like I said, this process isn't easy and isn't going to be guaranteed to work perfectly. The trick is going to be figuring out why he reacts the way he does, and figure out if there's a way to short-circuit it.

It sucks that he didn't stick around for the kids, but a better way to handle it would have been to just let him go back to his sister's. He's still making bad choices, and at some point they'll catch up to him. As I said last time, your kids need to know that one parent will be there for them 100%.

As for him being mad at you? Shrug it off. He's going to be pushing your buttons to get what he wants. As you said, you got a little power back in your life and he figured out how to take it back. This is where detachment comes into play; if he's going to act like a spoiled child, then he should get treated like one and sent to bed with no dessert. Remember, you can't trust anything he says right now, and only trust half of what he does.

You should probably be in bed when he comes home. If he tries to ask you about coming to bed (!), he can take his place on the couch again.

It's too bad the site doesn't allow for PMs; you might be able to use a little help figuring out what to do next. Can you view a user's homepage? There's an alt means of contact there.