It's good to hear the knee is healing! What is it with men and balls? Hmmm...
On the GF front... She's sounding more like a girl friend than a girlfriend. She also doesn't sound ready for a serious relationship, or at least the type you're seeking. And it may be safer for you to pursue (albeit slowly) someone who is consistently tentative. You're living on crumbs and cold noodles.
My take on it... pull back. Wayy back and examine what's driving you to need such a high maintenance relationship. Is it easier to focus on another person's needs than your own? Is this really love or something that's helping you bridge the gap between the pain of a family dissolving and discomfort of being alone? Having a special friendship, loving connection right after divorce can be one of the best ways to heal but it's often short lived. How much of this reflects your old patterns? Although you're giving her 'distance' you're still smothering her with your constant concern, even if it's anxiety you keep to yourself.
However, until she decides to get some help, I'm not sure there is going to be a future w/us.
You hit the nail on the head. And she may or may not be ready. And if she gets help, changes do not occur overnight. And she might not want what you want. And, my friend, apply the statement in italics to you.
Why do you need a future.. ? Some divorced women I know who are in relationships take it one day at a time, are happy that someone finds them appealing (rather than their former spouses who didn't).
Leave her alone. Let her reach out to you. And find your feet. Discover what is positive of being single, at ease in your own skin.
