Sounds great Puppy. You two seem to have found a path forward that's really working. I think if my W and I can navigate through the waters we're in right now, what you're doing would be a good template for us to move forward with. I have no great wish for my W to move back into the house right away. We even discussed that if we did reconcile, we'd get a new house to make a new start. Given our financial situation, that ain't gonna happen any time soon.
Can I ask you what your kids think of all this? I know one big worry my W and I have as we discuss possibly saving our M is how to protect our kids. My W has been acting so friendly and forward to me when we're alone and so standoffish when we're with the kids, I finally asked her "Are you acting like this so the kids don't get their hopes up?" She said yes, and I had a lightbulb moment.
How can we tentatively move forward together while still protecting our kids? They are much younger than yours, 8 years old and under, so it's not like they can have it explained to them in any real way. We worry about them even seeing us hug. They want us back together SO BAD.
We can obviously date in secret somewhat, but if we want to spend more time together, and if we want to spend quality family time together, we're going to have to let the kids in on it at some point. I can't allow them to have their hearts broken again if we can't make it work though. I'd rather just end this now. Seems like such an impossible situation!
