Thank you sooo much cat04!! You are right on the money, and I can just feel that you really care and know what you are talking about!
XH called twice tonight to talk to D10, first when she wasn't with me and I talked to him a few minutes just telling him where she was and normal "how are you's" Then, she called him back and at the end of conversations she say "oh you want to talk to Mom, here she is" I get on the phone and he is kinda laughing..I said "hi, how are you" he says "fine" I just kinda sat there and he goes "I really didn't ask to talk to you, she just said that" Normally that would have set me off, I would have gotton upset and told him how mean that was, etc. But, instead I just said "Oh, okay...I will just talk to you later" He said "okay, have a good night", I said "you too". I am again proud of myself. I am really making strides!!
I told my family he was going to counseling, but didn't really say much more. They do love him, they are just really angry at him. They have been his only family for 21 years, my Dad and him were really close, were from the beginning. I have 3 sisters no brother's so I think my XH was like as son to my Dad. I am going to take your advice and not talk about it to really anyone, but my friends who understand cause they have been thougth it too. You are so right, they don't want me to hurt anymore and want me to move on.
My mom was so funny tonight cause she has been really stand-offish about me dating or anything cause she thinks I am not "ready", but tonight we were talking about a family friend I am back in touch with, whose brother I was good friends with long ago. He just happens to be divorced too, my mom for the first time said "maybe you should hook up with him, he is cute and a good guy" I just laughed and said "you never know, I will see him on Saturday, who knows!!" And, really who does know. I just want to be happy and end the drama that my life has been for 3 years. I am just going to do my thing and let XH do his..Thanks again!!
Me-39 XH-42 M- 17 1/2 yrs, T-21 D-16, S-14, D-10 MLC- started 10/06 OW discovered-7/07 seperated-9/07 back together- 12/07 moves out again-7/08 D final-5/09 find out he was with OW the whole time btwn 1/08 to now -9/09
Me-40 XH-44 T-21 M-18 Div-19 mo. D-18,S-15,D-11 Bomb-7/07 EA,PA Mvd out-9/07-to give me space mvd back-12/07 mvd out-7/08 back with OW since 2/08 OW broke it off-1/10 in and out of tunnel and our life since!!
