Jody says that walk-aways may or may not acknowledge receipt of this type of letter so you can imagine my surprise when H's reply was in my e-mail inbox before 9AM this morning:
"Morning!
Thanks so much for your note (hand delivered no less!)…… I hope you take me at my word that I am very happy for you. You have made a transformation, the likes I could not have dreamt. And yes, work is important, however, you now know that it is or should be only part of who we are. I agree that you were the proverbial hamster on the wheel, with no apparent way to jump off. Well, the wheel slowed down for you to begin a new route.
I have no regrets either. You truly are a wonderful person with great heart and compassion; now have the time and means to enjoy life and others. And I would be remiss if I didn't thank you once again for seeing Mom when you can. I will tell you, as of yesterday, she said she was going to go to the "Meet the Neighbors" meeting on Friday afternoon. SHE mentioned it to me without me reminding or encouraging her! And she said she wanted to take a drawing class that they offer downstairs….amazing! Mom is doing very well at her new "home" and I thank you for that.
I wish you the best and we will continue to maintain our friendship. You know that if you ever need help I will be there.
Love,
H"
The part that confuses me is the "Love" sign-off. I have always felt that H and I both still love one another. We have been very kind to one another throughout this whole ordeal. At one point we bonded over the fact that we were both ticked off at our attorneys (sorry GIMA). Someone once said that the saddest divorces are those when both people still love one another. H rarely said the "love" word while we were really happily married......I think it had something to do with his unhappy childhood.....so it really sticks out to me that he wrote it now.
