I've come down with some kind of cold or flu....can barely talk, almost hoarse, but need to be in clinic tomorrow.
I finished the "Midnight Letter of Release" and slipped it through H's mail slot yesterday afternoon before he came home from work. Thank you for your suggestions. It has been through several revisions but I'm happy with the final product. I'm posting it here to give folks an idea of what one of these looks like:
"H,
I completely understand why you reached the decision to file for divorce. The many hours I spent working took away time that we should have spent enjoying one another in every way. What little time we had together was too often spent on domestic chores, rather than on having fun. I was too often tense and gained weight because of the stress and long hours at work. I just need to let you know that I “get” it.
I’m not writing this to get you to change your mind neither do I expect a response. I just want you to know that the separation was a real wake up call to me and a catalyst for change. I am working 35 hours/week now and am happy to say that I find full-time clinical work much more interesting that I ever imagined it would be. Without the stress and long hours at the XXX (former work place) I am much happier and healthier. Clearly the changes have been to my benefit and for that I am grateful. I am a much better person because of what I have learned. I now know that I have a much deeper capacity for love and forgiveness than I ever imagined.
I know that you are moving forward and I know its time that I do the same. I have no regrets about having married you. I have very fond memories of the times we laughed and played together, the incredible kisses and sexual chemistry we shared, the wonderful evenings out on the patio and in our home together, and the fantastic trips we enjoyed together! These are all special memories that I will always hold dear.
Over the past year I have really appreciated that we’ve been able to work through a lot of challenging feelings and come out the other side with a friendship that is perhaps richer for its genuine caring in spite of the difficult time we’ve been through. In the future I certainly hope that we can continue to forge a friendship that has more time for fun as you continue to be a person with whom I enjoy having fun.
