Counseling conundrums

[Dia]

Hi, Bunny,

This may sound odd...

There are several reasons you are getting the brunt of the sessions.

1) You are the stronger partner of the two of you, so the MC knows you can handle it.

2) The MC is trying to show your H that she can be fair and not favor you. Unfortunately, since your H is a narcissist, this just reinforces his idea that it's YOU who's screwed up.

3) MC is still trying to gain H's trust.

4) You're more willing to talk, so that makes it easy for the MC and she hopes H will learn by example.

Now then, since you've already got the lead, you might as well use it. Bring up the big issues. Be dead level about you you feel. If you don't feel heard, either by your H or by the MC, say so. Come right out and say, "I'm not feeling heard."