Okay, I finally put in to change my name... I haven't felt really confused for a long time... lol... so time for a change. Just gonna shorten it to SoCo, since that's what most of my DB friends use anyway.
"Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out." Robert Collier
"One's best success often comes after their greatest disappointments." Henry Ward Beecher
Congrats on the name change, SoCo! It marks a transition into the new you from So Confused to So Cool!
Interested to read about your H`s paranoia with your friends as my H shares that too. I think its as far as they can go in acknowledging that their behaviour is off.
Okay, FG. I'll say for about the last year, pretty much since we separated, he has been paranoid about our friends. Every practice, game, or whatever, he would either just not go or not speak to anyone. He would ALWAYS think that they were talking about him, staring at him, or that I had turned them against him and they were "my" friends.
He even went so far as on one of his weekends with the kids to call me from the baseball swimming party, and tell me that I better get there NOW or he was going to take the kids and make them leave. WHY? Because he could not be there with THOSE PEOPLE, he said. They were all my friends, he said... Then later after he threw a giant fit and left, several people told me that they tried to talk to him and he wouldn't even speak.
Honestly, a couple of weeks ago was the first time he has started to act normal with our friends again. This weekend he was back to laughing and joking with them like he used to. I think he has figured out that I didn't wave my magic wand and "turn them all against him". LOL
I mean, yeah, if you act crazy, look crazy, or bring your 18 yo ho ass girlfriend with you, they are going to stare. : ) But if you act normal, then everything is cool... haha.
"Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out." Robert Collier
"One's best success often comes after their greatest disappointments." Henry Ward Beecher
Ahhh, it's raining AGAIN today. Guess we won't be playing baseball tonight. That's fine. I could use a night of not being with ex since we have been together EVERY day for a game or games since Friday. AND there are things scheduled every day through Sunday (baseball and soccer tournaments). We will pretty much be spending the entire weekend together again cuz the tournament is all day.
Things were fine last night again. He was on his best behavior. D4 was a wild woman last night, and he was lots of help with her. He laughed cuz I told him to sit down because it was not his night to watch her. It took both of us to wrangle her. I don't know what my mom fed that kid for a snack, but something was crazy. LOL
He reached out once to grab my hand going to the concession stand, and I obviously pulled back. He apologized and said it was habit. He keeps saying how much he misses the kids (and me), which is a big change from before, because EVERYBODY made him angry before.
I think that horrible day we had and me getting the protective order did something since he was kept from the kids for almost a month and was not allowed to contact me. I keep hoping maybe that was the "bottom" since he seems to be climbing up.... but I know better than to hope for anything with this deal. Just watch and see....
"Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out." Robert Collier
"One's best success often comes after their greatest disappointments." Henry Ward Beecher
Opinions please. Ex just found out yesterday that his step grandfather has probably 6-8 weeks to live due to cancer. He was worried about how to tell the kids when something happens to him, b/c they are around him all the time at ex mom's house. I told him we will figure it out.
THEN he txt me tonight, asking if I can be there for him at the funeral when he passes away.........Now, this is someone I have known but have not really been close to. One thought is no, because this will get ex acting crazy and stalkerish again and we are no longer married. The other is, what kind of cold hearted b*tch says no to that?
Opinions please.......
"Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out." Robert Collier
"One's best success often comes after their greatest disappointments." Henry Ward Beecher
We will pretty much be spending the entire weekend together again cuz the tournament is all day...
...Things were fine last night again. He was on his best behavior. D4 was a wild woman last night, and he was lots of help with her. He laughed cuz I told him to sit down because it was not his night to watch her...
...I think that horrible day we had and me getting the protective order did something since he was kept from the kids for almost a month and was not allowed to contact me...
And then...
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One thought is no, because this will get ex acting crazy and stalkerish again and we are no longer married.
Same guy, same X, right?
Just making sure.
Cause you know...it sounds like two different guys the way you post it.
Being born and dying are pretty much the only things we can say everyone has in common.
Opinion...why not? Funerals are for those left behind.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
