On ABC's Nightline they are doing a series of shows on the ten commmandments. Last night it happened to be "Thou shalt not commit adultery". Here is the link:
I didn't get a chance to watch the entire episode, DD 18 called from college.
I did see one part where the man who is the founder of a website that helps married people commit adultery was saying it wasn't wrong what he was doing. He said he was just making money by providing a service. He said it wasn't his fault they were committing adultery, that if the other partner had acted right, the person wouldn't be looking.....
Another part showed young adults who were effected by their parents adultery, they were crying.
I intend on going to the link this weekend and watching it all when I have an opportunity.
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
Yeah, that Noel guy didn't help his argument at all by blaming the victims of adultery. Not that he had much of an argument anyway, other than making a buck off other people's sins and miseries.
I work in good old secular NYC, and my office doesn't have very many religious people, but when the issue came up of the Ashley Madison site, most us agreed, without a hestiation, that the person who created it was going to hell.
On ABC's Nightline they are doing a series of shows on the ten commmandments. Last night it happened to be "Thou shalt not commit adultery". Here is the link:
we should all send this to each others' cheating spouses and their OP's. just for fun. too bad we couldn't have, like, somebody in a devil suit hand-deliver it.
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012
I never noticed how many articles were written about infidelity until it touched my life.
In this month's issue of "Ladies Home Journal" in the 'Can this marriage be saved' secion it is about infidelity.
Basically, it amounts to that the couple got married young. The H climbed the corporate ladder while th mother was a sahm. While he was traveling he began having several one night stands.
His excuse? The wife never paid him any attention. All her time was devoted to the kids. When he was at home she had a list of chores that needed to be done. Sadly, this does happen in lots of marriages.
I was very guilty of devoting my time to my kids. But, aren't we adults? Don't we realize that things are not always about "us" once the kids are born? Yes, sadly, we don't work on our marriages like we should, but what happened to communication instead of the bandaid of an affair?
Once my H moved out...he got to have the life he wanted. The OW gave him all the attention he desired. Her son was young. She put him to bed early so they could have "alone" time. She only has him one weekend out of the month, so they are able to act like teenagers and go and do whatever they want on the weekends, while we LBS continue to be the parent and take care of our kids like they deserve to be. Sorry for the rant....the article just stuck a chord in me!
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
yoyo.. this sounds like me... although he hasn't had multiple affairs, its the same senario.. I just hope it doesn't come to that.
when we have kids of course our focus changes... My kids are young and I can't just set them aside because H needs me to stroke his ego..god knows he doesn't stroke mine and Im ok with that.
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me: 37 H: 44 Married for 18 years this june S7 S3 porn issues, and much more... since 7/06
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
His excuse? The wife never paid him any attention. All her time was devoted to the kids. When he was at home she had a list of chores that needed to be done. Sadly, this does happen in lots of marriages.
His (or her) excuse (Insert a, b, or c depending on the circumstances.) I think all the different reasons I've heard around here are mostly crap. WAS want to have more fun, be with an OP, less responsibility and reality, etc. And they all come up with some reason why which generally focuses blame on the LBS so they can feel less or little guilt and personal responsibility for their (usually crappy actions).
I focused too much on my kids too Yoyo. Probably still do though not as much. And so do any good parents when they have youngish age kids. And many of us don't run out and have affairs b/c of that. And then wouldn't blame the other spouse for it!!!
