WAS seeing reality?

[K4D]

Yes,

There is hope. But you are in for a long ride quite possibly as most of us are. Divorces do get busted on this site. Sometimes in months and sometimes in years.

Ask your L if the judge is a dad friendly judge. That could determine a lot in your chances.

I can't say anything in child support as I have contemplated going after my W for child support since she makes almost twice as much as me and we have 50/50 sharing time with the kids. I would definitely fight it if I were you though. She wants the D. Let her figure out how to support her half of herself and the kids.

Best of buddies is a tough one. In some cases, keeping that friendship relationship has actually worked in bringing the WAS back once they came to their senses. In other cases, shutting down the friendship thing has brought reality to the WAS who thought they could have their cake and eat it to. Once the friendship was shut down, the WAS realized it wasn't all dandy and started seeking their H/W back with time.

Tough call for each situation as you have to start somewhere on the rebuilding track. I know with my W, I will not allow OM around me or my kids. He is not invited to anything having to do with us and my W knows it. She is welcomed to join us, but not him. I haven't met OM and he hasn't been introduced to my kids yet because I told W that I would go after full custody if she does introduce him to them. I am going to get to spend a bit of time with W on at least 3 different occasions in the coming months of the holidays and he will not be with her for those times.

This also lets him know that this is not going to be a cake walk for him. He knows he is walking into a situation where he is not wanted by me or the kids.

To each their own.

Good luck.

Kevin