I would really like to have these emails and phone calls stop. I was wondering if I should send another Plan B letter expressing this and I am going to continue the dark. This would be my first break from it in a month. As she needs to stop contacting me and my mom. She needs to go live this life she has choosen. I do not want to be dragged into that life. Nor should my Mom and dad. She is breaking a boundry I set up in the orginal plan b letter. Which was no contact unless it is life/death all else can go through the IM. I need to reinforce that boundry. This is really affecting my Mom's stress levels. Its an item that WAS and Mom worked on over the years during their very close relationship. And right now WAS has forgotten this.
Opinions please.
Hi Cutter, I think you're doing a great job under hash conditions. You asked for opinions about getting her to stop contact. The simplest way to do this is:
1) Phone calls: Get new home and cell numbers. Request the new home number be Unlisted. Inform your close friends of your new numbers and make it clear to them that they should not be shared with ANYONE - specifically her.
2) Emails: Either get a new email address or block her email address.
3) Another Plan B letter? NO. Actions speak louder than words. Remember the swoosh... and just do it. You've said it once... anything more makes it just noise.
4) Mom: Hmmm.. this isn't so easy, and your mom has told her she has nothing to say to her while she's having the affair. Your mom is going to have to stand her own ground and either screen her own calls or SPELL it out to her to NOT contact her.
Right now she is bugging your mom to get to you. Don't let her. Ask your mother to please refrain from telling you if WAW has contacted her. If your mom wants to make the point clear she can say that the topic of WAW is off limits with you.
oh, yeah, beware: Once she figures out that she can't contact you vial electronic means she's going to arrive on your doorstep to "get to you." How you handle that is up to you, just a heads up.
Is there anything more you can do from your side to accelerate the end of the affair? Because only once that is over will she start seeing reality. Hmmm... I dunno if this could help, but maybe contacting her company's HR department and exposing the affair to them? Look into that and make sure you know the ramifications of it before you take that step.
