It sounds like our wives are very similar in their thinking. Overall I felt strangely good....it was nice that she felt enough trust in me to open up that much. Overall I validated and listened...occasionally offering my opinion or view on certain topics (it was a good 1.5 hour conversation). One other thing I did pick up was that if the conversation stopped for 2-3 minutes and I left the room....she would start it up again within about 30 seconds. Even to the point that I sat down in another room and she shortly followed me to restart the conversation.
The validation from her that I was not the problem did help heal some scars from past. I am sure with all the truly horrible and nasty things an MLC can say and how those statements hurt a persons confidence. As with you, I did have some major faults that needed to be addressed. It is to bad that it took this situation to realize some of those faults, but we cannot change the past....only learn from it.
