My FIL has made a point of dropping by the home at least once a week. We went out for breakfast last tuesday. And just talked shop and his health issues. They dropped by last sat as well to say hi. I know they are doing this to make sure that I am ok. I think it helps with their grief over their D's choices. FIL's health has taken a hit during all this and he has lost as much weight as me. Their family has had a tough go at it. I have kept contact with the SIL as well as I am helping her through her advanced treatments of MS. I take her to the hospital once every 3 months for a full day of treatments. Its very stressful and I am a sea of calm for her.
I promised that I would keep helping the SIL through her treatment. No matter what happens between WAS and myself. As somethings in life are very important, and keeping a commitment to a very sick and stressed out SIL goes beyond any marriage , seperation or divorce. It is something I freely offer and do not expect anything in return.
The brother has a drinking problem.
The WAS always said that her parents were amazed that she got me as I gave her a good solid stable relationship in comparision to her brother and sister ( ha ! )
We were very close. We are both just offering friendship now. I believe they will keep with the checkup's. Plus I do enjoy their company. I just want to keep it spaced out and I do not initiate the contact. Now they have 3 to worry about instead of 2. 4 if you count me.



Undrdg. I do understand what your saying. It is difficult. But I would recommend you keep any WS conversations out of the conversation. Everything is as hard as we make it. It is hard for them as well to know their child did what they did.

Right after D-Day ( 2 days later ) I went over there and just sat and talked and talked with them. We were very open about what happened. I kept the details out. But explained the time lines. I knew I had to do this before the fogs justifications took over and lie's became reality.


Is there any good posts on how to deal with the in-laws ?

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