Well, allthough my stxH NEVER left me completely alone, he did have almost a period of 8 months that we were polite to each other but he showed no romantic interest whatsoever towards me. And 2 years later, he says he loves me, never stopped. Time is a very relevant thing. I think you can feel if everything is "gone" or not and still things could change (not saying they will but...).
match.com=go for it. You probably feel guilty because I figured, in my case, when I detached and subsequently fell for a wonderful man, in my head, I knew that since I was the one keeping the M together (in my head), since I had given up, I was destroying the last chances we had. Not strangely, my happiness and dropping the rope, triggered what happened.
