I would not withdraw the filing. Being sick does not give him a pass on his responsibilities. If he is well enough to work, he is well enough to support his son financially. Why would supporting his son "do him in"?

Me: 36, W: 33, M: 10 yrs
Bomb: 1/09, Seperated: 9/09, Piecing Begins: 10/09

My story: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...t=91&page=1