To think a few years ago I had a real issue with people touching me and giving hugs, these are cyber I know, but I don't think I'd even been able to give these a few years ago either. I've come a long way...
H is happiest when he's hunting and fishing! So I know part of his good mood is that's he going fishing this weekend..oh you know what he said "I haven't been fishing all summer" baloney. OW bought a bass boat at the beginning of the summer so I know he's been using that...she "bought it because she wanted it" yeah right--my H a bass boat a few years ago and fished all the time--so don't tell me OW "just wanted one." The thing is H REALLY couldn't figure out why she bought it, boy was he foggy. She's living on her deceased spouse life insurance money.
Basically she's supporting him right now, he doesn't pay any thing to live there, he does pay half of our house payment though.
I digress...Deb--how is that you learned so much about MLC? Did you read a lot, have spoke to other people? Just curious as our sitchs are so similar. My H hasn't boughten any new clothes either, well at least that I see, he's usually wearing his work shirts which are the same. Most of his polos are ones that I bought for him.
I remember when this first happened and well before actually I couldn't sleep at all, anxiety big time. I was taking sleeping pills for the first month every night and then tapered off, now I don't need them at all. I find that a good nights sleep is essential to my mood, etc.
A woman in our city left her six month old in her car all day and the baby died--tragic. She forgot to drop the baby off at daycare. She was so exhausted from taking care of their 2 year old developmentally disabled child that she couldn't function. Her H went pick up baby at day care and was told the baby hadn't been there all day. My thoughts are, why didn't the day care call the mother to see why she wasn't there--I mean most people would call in if their child wasn't going to be at day care and what was the H's role in all of this? The woman had been only getting an hour to an hour and half of sleep for the last few weeks...hmmm something to think about as this could really happen to anybody with children.
