Over the Shock and GALing 6

[orangedog]

Two authors, in a "meta-study" (that is, a study of hundreds of studies), put it this way:

children who adapted most successfully were on the whole intelligent, attractive, and more skilled socially and in sporting activities, and they achieved well in school...The children who were doing poorly had a history of problems: disturbed peer relations, speech and learning disability, were overweight, and so on

* it is not clear that the effects of divorce are not unlike the effects of any other trauma or disequilibrium suffered during childhood, so the relevant concept might be insulating children from trauma generally and not divorce specifically

Would imply the question is more "how would MY children do?" Can they carry one more brick in their little cart of troubles? Are they overloaded already?


Still noodling the antecedent preconditions portion. Something doesn't sit right.

So a lot to think about and very little in the way of robust data on which to make decisions. But what about the elusive Middle Ground or Third Way? Is there an intermediate stage for the Thinkers? Separation? Or is that too cost-prohibitive?

Agree. Thinker, you seem a little "intense" lately. Lots of questions and posts from you. There's been a lot of dust kicked up lately. A month or two away by yourself might give some clarity. (Vacation, sabatical, remote assignment, volunteer work, etc.)