Is the Fog Lifting?

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Cathy,

Sometimes I have to take something to sleep! But it's been getting better.

according to my H, H looks quite similar to her deceased S!!! She still keeps his pictures up all around the house, too.

Well, that is never going to work, OW loved her H very much. He is just a substitute I'm glad to see that you and I have that in common, most people here have their H home right now.

I also told him to have a good weekend when he left and he said "yeah" which is actually a lot, usually he doesn't respond at all.

his "hi" was so emotionless, he just seems so down sometimes.

They are depressed because they are feeling guilty (finally), my H is acting the same way. I ask him how he is, if he had a nice weekend, ect. I never heard of anyone so unhappy about life.

This is part of one of the last stages also. I empathize for my H, but he has to go through this alone! It's the only way.

Right now I'm trying to live on the feelings I had for my H when I first met him and his buried good qualities and liking THAT guy, but if he keeps SHOWING more of his oldself, I might actually start liking him more for REAL.

Girl I'm in the same mode as you! I'm finding I'm liking my H too! Especially when I see the old H! He was over Tuesday night, took D17 fishing, bought her a pole. He was standing there cleaning fish, and I was really looking him over (he was clueless, I think!) Anyway, He is looking much older, getting a bigger belly, not shaving very often, wearing his clothes from when he was living here. Not new or different ones.

These are signs they are not happy with things, I take it as a good sign for me, he will be coming closer to coming out! So pay attention to every detail, those are baby steps also. Since DRing, I find I do look for every sign. It important to keep us going, knowing things are happening.

Take Care

Deb