Gotta Keep Trying 2

[Gardener]

Gima, I didn't mean to skewer this so much, but I knew where you wanted to go and I thought it was too wordy, one-sided and needy. So I came up with this.

"I need to talk to you because I need your help. I am feeling unloved, unwanted and unappreciated.
I would like to spend a little time with you talking about our feelings. Not sex; but feelings, emotions.

Are you willing to have short discussion at this time? When would be a better time?

I would like to see if together you and I can come up with ways that might affect some improvement, some movement in our shared situation .


I've decided that I want us to take the next step with some little physical demonstrations of the affection I know we still feel for each other. Simple things: holding hands, hugging, sitting closer or even snuggling watching TV. Complimenting each other, saying words of appreciation for our many simple kindnesses to each other.

I think such demonstrations would feel good again. I think it would mean a lot to both of us; I know it would to me.

And I'll bet it would do the kids a world of good to see it again, too.

What are your thoughts?

Use what you'd like, of course. Discard the rest. I'd see how this goes before planning a different conversation of I-don't-know-how-much-more-of-this-I-can-take.

Hope this helps.