I so echo ^^ in that avoiding confrontation and being a pushover leads people to not respect [us]. I'm guilty of that too!
JCJ - you were so RIGHT - ABSOLUTELY RIGHT - to not give him the fifty quid. He went swanning off to the States and made all that fuss of "what present do you want me to bring you back" when you got nothing off him in the end!! Tell him that he can pay the £50 in lieu of that present!!!! LOL.
They take the biscuit these WASs - and when they can't upset us with anything else, it all boils down to money.
Oooh, I'm so angry for you Julia, I feel like going to that fencing class right now and socking it to someone with the biggest foil I can get my hands on!
Thanks for the recommendation - it's that or Tai Chi so will make my decision soon ... will probably come down to cost in the end as I hear that fencing can be expensive .. ??
Breath deeply now .... "[suck in air] in with love ... [blow] out with hate ... repeat ...[suck in air] in with love .... [blow] out with hate"!!!
If that doesn't work, go watch The Catherine Tate show - does it every time for me!!!!!
WAH 43; W 47 M 16; T 17 Cats 15 & 6 Bomb 27/05/09 ow 28/06/09
"It is only on the darkest night that we see the stars"
Thanks for the link JCJ - one of H's 'jobs' at the weekend will be fixing up my computer speakers for me, so I will be able to watch it then!! My PC doesn't like UTube for some reason but it gets there in the end ... I had a quick look but as I can't hear it, I decided to wait - but am I bovvered? Regardez ma visage ... am I bovvered?!! She is wicked - well wicked innit?!!!!!!!!
WAH 43; W 47 M 16; T 17 Cats 15 & 6 Bomb 27/05/09 ow 28/06/09
"It is only on the darkest night that we see the stars"
H texted me at the weekend and asked if I wanted to meet up and gave me a choice of Tuesday or Thursday. As I had declined his last two invitations (and I also need to get him to sign a very important form) I said yes to Thursday. Then that email came through asking me for the £50.
Of course now it is 4.45 and of course I have not heard a bean from him, I suspect this would be a different story if I had agreed to see him with £50 in my pocket. Of course something genuine could have happened. However a text saying he was unable to meet or some kind of courtesy would be nice.
I'm just wondering, do you think that I should call him on this behaviour or just leave it? In the past I would have left it, but now I would at least like to make the point, whether it is wasted or not. Considering the bombshells I have discovered and still extended a courteous hand to I think to spit the dummy out over this is a bit rich. I also need him to sign this form and I doubt he would if I just posted it to him.
Geez, what an effort for no reward! Darker than dark after this, he gets nothing more from me other than a divorce.
He's acting like a baby because you won't give him 50 quid? He has no maturity. Ridiculous.
Julia, you want the D now right? This is definitely what you want? If so, then itemize all the joint bills you paid completely on your own, tell him that you'll give him the 50 quid when he pays his half of all of those bills. Tell him you need a form signed and will meet him next Tuesday/Thursday (whichever is best for you) at such and such place. Don't give him options anymore....give him orders. This man is inconceivably arrogant and thoughtless.
I know....harsh, right? I'm sitting in a hospital with my mom and watching her suffer and thinking of all the times I never stood up for myself. I guess I'm trying to push that to you so that you will stand up for yourself right now.
Let us know what ended up happening tonight.
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
