I think like you said, to be very nice, stay quiet and let H figure things out for himself. That's really what I think my H is doing right now. We used to talk daily, but up until a few weeks ago it's not consistent. I don't call him unless absolutely necessary right now and will keep doing that until things change again.
It's funny how I can look back and see all these different stages we've been through in the last six months.
