Tristan, I have been reading your sitch. Apart from a couple of hijackings from others it is quite informative.
But you mention that I should give her something to lose - or put that thought in her mind.
But you did not do this in your sitch. The big move was I think around pg 61 when your WAW asked to talk and you did in the park.
You were nervous and thought she may be serving you the D papers. You didn't indicate that you were at any point about to reconcile - you still thought that it was over.
How were her moods just before she asked to reconcile - ie the last few days before . How did she talk to you? Any more physical contact, more e-mails, more feeling in her voice...??? What were her indicators that she was going to ask for reconciliation - retrospectively of course.
Is it your anger and feelings of betrayal that are saying for me to put the fear of 'losing' into her mind?
I am not being difficult - I just want to understand more. I agree in principle with what you suggest - how is my WAW going to be shook free from her current tranquil existence otherwise.
You are someone that I am trying to emulate, and I find your advice insightful without being too brash. I do not believe that I need to stand up for myself or reclaim my manhood. Aggression would be a mistake from me, and this is something that you did not advocate during your separation.
I will not push my wife further away, I need to draw her towards me!
Regards, Gyn.
Cause all of the stars, Have faded away, Just try not to worry, You'll see them someday. Take what you need, And be on your way and, Stop crying your heart out.
