Quote: I think you're right in sensing a shift here Cathy. I THINK perhaps your H is floundering some because YOU are changing some of the ground rules.
He may act pissy now, but how much better will YOU feel to know you stood up for yourself (and in a reasonable manner), that you are demanding to be treated with respect?
Isn't this actually essential for your M to be the kind of R you want?? Perhaps your H is having trouble dealing with the notion that HE may have to change if your M is to work.
I think you are sooo right Shiny.
Hmmm...H have to change... Oh my, my BUT there's nothing wrong with H, it's ME that supposed to change otherwise why would he have been soooo unhappy....
Okay, okay, my PMA is a little high today!!
LL--it does help to take the focus off of H and put it back on ME.
Oh my, my BUT there's nothing wrong with H, it's ME that supposed to change otherwise why would he have been soooo unhappy.... 
--thanks for your insights. 
