The wife holds divorce over my head whenever I object to something she says or does. I can't express my feelings without her jumping on me.
I was in a similiar situation as yours. My wife was the Master of messing with my head. She did so successfully for years. But one day the pedestal cracked. I was sick of the "crap behavior," tired of the arguments she would start over nothing, and absolutely frustrated with the 'weird' new interests that were obviously affecting mine and my daughters home life.
From my personal experience, the WAS spouse has alot of control in these situations. Control that I think you need to regain. I can go into this more later. But for now,
Funny thing was that after I was able to remove the control she felt she was entitled to, I agreed to the threat of divorce. And she had an argument against it.
