I've been avoiding coming here because it seems to make me feel worse. I can't even read other people's stories without feeling their pain and having to fight back tears. So sorry I haven't been able to help.
Things have been going well, I guess. Really, you'd never know any of this ever happened. H doesn't talk about leaving (or anything R related, for that matter). I'm sure he's still struggling with things, but he won't volunteer any information. I really wish he'd talk to me but I don't want to pressure him.
Right now, I'm struggling with the holidays. H had had no contact with OW since early September, but she is from here and still has family here. I anticipate she'll be in the area for the holidays and one or the other will initiate contact. I know I shouldn't be worrying about things before they happen, but I can't seem to help myself.