I think you're right in sensing a shift here Cathy. I THINK perhaps your H is floundering some because YOU are changing some of the ground rules.
He may act pissy now, but how much better will YOU feel to know you stood up for yourself (and in a reasonable manner), that you are demanding to be treated with respect?
Isn't this actually essential for your M to be the kind of R you want?? Perhaps your H is having trouble dealing with the notion that HE may have to change if your M is to work.
